What Happened to the Joy?
I re-read my last few posts, and they don't sound very joyful. That rocked me back a little bit, as I feel pretty darn happy, and I meant this blog to be a place for me to celebrate choosing joy, and maybe to post about times then I had to make that conscious decision.Hmmm.
If I post about having to consciously choose joy, that means I'm going to be posting about difficult times. And that means it may sound like my life is fraught with anguish and I'm struggling to try and find that silver lining.
While that is true some of the time, it's a very small percentage of the time. So please, if you are reading this (anyone out there?) bear in mind that you are only hearing about the tough stuff, not the other 95% of my life.
And as for yesterday's post, I found a silver lining! I was making a list of menus today (I feel so damn housewifey right now it makes me laugh!) to make sure and offer Fearless Husband a variety of meals, to make sure I had the pantry basics to make most of those meals, and to make sure I was offering a HEALTHY variety of meals.
I happened to see Ms. Misery online, and had a bright idea...I asked her what she served her husband. We chatted for almost an hour. She perked right up, sharing some great ideas, some dishes I'd never heard of and some I'd never considered. She even mailed me the recipes for several dishes. And we laughed about the fact that many of the recipes on my list would so NOT be on her list. So...she seemed to have some fun, she got some joy out of teaching me and sharing with me, she spent a full hour NOT complaining, and I got some good new recipes! Woo-hoo!
No, the woo-hoo isn't "good for me for making her happy", the woo-hoo is "hurray, we found some common ground and I found a way to enjoy her company without feeling guilty or trying to fix her!" So woo-damn-hoo! (And if you want the menus or recipes, just leave me a comment, and I'll be happy to share!)
posted by Carolie @ 5:29 PM
2 Comments:
Well done you. I have so little patience for chronic complainers and I swear they seek me out just because I can't bring myself to be rude enough to tell them what a big huge pain they are. You'd think my Pollyanna routine would drive them away but I think they deliberately try to burst my "it's all good" bubble. Bah.
Thanks for your comment, Lori! And I am right there with you...I don't want to be Little Mary Sunshine to the extreme, but I get frustrated when someone keeps telling me that NOTHING is any good!
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